Reading time: 4–5 minutes In relationships, we can sometimes find ourselves caught in an exhausting cycle. One person seeks reassurance and closeness, while the other withdraws, becomes distant or needs more space. The more one pursues, the more the other retreats. Both may experience distress, yet neither seems able to Read more
When we enter a close relationship, we bring more than our adult selves. We also bring old fears, protective habits and expectations shaped by earlier relationships. Sometimes a disagreement in the present touches something much older within us. Internal Family Systems (IFS) helps us understand the different parts of our Read more
The life force energy we need doesn’t just come to us from the sources of food, light and oxygen. It also comes directly from the very space around us and within us. I started using techniques that draw on the life force since 1999 when I lived in Sri Lanka. Read more
Depression is a debilitating and scary place to experience. It is not to be confused with anxiety though people do experience the two together. Anxiety is an arousal state, not an emotion, and is a direct reaction to external stress. Anxiety is not a mental health condition. It is part Read more
The Unconscious is everything that we are not fully conscious of. Just think for a moment about all your physical processes in your physical body that happens outside of your conscious will. The beat of your heart, the flow of blood around the body, the chemical processes going on in Read more
When you come to your personal free consultation for therapy we always talk about your goals and what you would like to get out of counselling. Sometimes clients are very stuck with what they want because they often come to therapy because they are feeling overwhelmed, emotionally exhausted, stuck in Read more
I rather like the Egg Diagram that Roberto Assaggioli presents to us in his psychosynthesis approach, a model of transpersonal psychology. Just as there exists a lower and middle level of consciousness, we also have superconscious awareness and within that level of consciousness is the structure of the Higher Self, Read more
Addictions are one of the most challenging experiences one will have in life. It may be codependency in relationships, substances (like alcohol, cocaine, caffeine, tobacco and food). It may be an attachment to behaviours like gambling, sex, pornography, shopping or social media. How do addictions manage to have so much Read more
Many clients ask about meditation as a relaxation tool. However, meditation is far more than that. I first learned to meditate back in 1999 when I was living and working in Sri Lanka from a Buddhist work colleague. It was an amazing experience. It was simply a relaxation technique. It Read more